Face It: Even 'Good People' Are A Villain To Somebody
I saw a spot on meme recently that said:
The hard truth is that when confronted with our own missteps, mistakes, or straight up wrong doing, most people instinctively deflect outward (deny, deflect, pass blame, lash out).
The 'other person' (colleague, boss, etc.) becomes the immediate villain in our story because it's uncomfortable to take ownership for our own errors in judgement or action.
And, in turn, people do the exact same to us.
As they say: "People will forgive you for being wrong, they just can't forgive you for being right."
The point being: even when you do your best to speak with candor, respect, and consideration ... drama and disconnect will still happen.
We don't strive to communicate effectively because it's the EASY thing to do. We do so because it's the RIGHT thing to do.
Self-Awareness Question: Where might you be unfairly making a villain out of someone at work because you're personally uncomfortable with the reflection of you they're putting a spotlight on? #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfAwareness #Communication #Conflict #PeopleDevelopment #EQ #Learning #Speaking #Coaching #Civility